It's a swiping backhander from the universe, but males simply seem to be better at arguing. They are cunning and sneaky, and they don't get nearly as upset as any rational human being should. I am personally the owner of one who likes to "change the goalposts" of any given argument. So, for example, you start off with a simple disagreement about crisps, washing up, vanished socks or whatever, and within ten minutes he will have muddied the water by using any or all of these tactics:
1. Insulting your family.
2. Picking up a word or sentence you have correctly and clearly used to express yourself, and claiming it to be nonsense. (VERY dangerous, that one.)
3. Referring to some incident you don't remember, in which you said something you don't remember, but certainly wouldn't have said because you disagree with it violently.
4. Claiming one of your most beloved beliefs / hobbies to be rot. (Note: he doesn't actually believe this - he's just saying it for the joy of watching you stutter and howl in rage.)
The mature and civil disagreement has now degenerated to a point at which one of the participants is a sodden, shaking, spineless heap of blubber, stuttering incoherently and looking fit for nothing but committal. It is not him.
All of which is really just a roundabout way of saying that I hope you are alright, and have contacted and demolished the person concerned. : )
kiwiqueen - 15. Jan, 20:54
That is SO spot on! According to Dylan Moran, it should be the other way round. We should be the amazing arguers, asking cunning questions like "Ah yes, but why is the fridge door open?" in a very knowing and triumphant way. But it never really is like that, sadly, and I have never ever managed to floor any male with my feeble arguments. I'm working on it :D
The person concerned has indeed been contacted. Some might have demolished, but not I, being far too nice and all that. He is at my mercy ;)
1. Insulting your family.
2. Picking up a word or sentence you have correctly and clearly used to express yourself, and claiming it to be nonsense. (VERY dangerous, that one.)
3. Referring to some incident you don't remember, in which you said something you don't remember, but certainly wouldn't have said because you disagree with it violently.
4. Claiming one of your most beloved beliefs / hobbies to be rot. (Note: he doesn't actually believe this - he's just saying it for the joy of watching you stutter and howl in rage.)
The mature and civil disagreement has now degenerated to a point at which one of the participants is a sodden, shaking, spineless heap of blubber, stuttering incoherently and looking fit for nothing but committal. It is not him.
All of which is really just a roundabout way of saying that I hope you are alright, and have contacted and demolished the person concerned. : )
The person concerned has indeed been contacted. Some might have demolished, but not I, being far too nice and all that. He is at my mercy ;)